Are you putting your happiness in the right 'basket'?

It has been a while since I write something in the blog.
One funny thing that I notice about myself, I tend to write more when I am facing adversity in life :)

Let's talk about happiness (again)
I just learned that most human, lie their happiness somewhere else but not within themselves.

Have you ever think like this " I must be feeling super happy if....xxx"
and you can fill the xxx part with anything, any circumstances that you think is perfect timing to be happy.

You think you'll be happy when you arrive somewhere, or getting something, or when things happen in your family or your kids, let's label this "Ideal Situation" for the context in my writing today.  

That's very dangerous thought to begin with.
It is like committing to unhappiness when that ideal situation is not fulfilled.
and if we think about it logically, why would you let external situation control your happiness?

It's hard to notice how your brain tricks you, it is like a super enhanced defense mechanism, but it is misleading defense mechanism!

You will not die or getting harmed when the ideal situation is not achieved. You will be ok, alive and perfectly ok. Not getting what you want on the timing that you wish will not harm you even a bit.

So think about it again consciously.
Where do you put your happiness? is it somewhere that you can control? or it is somewhere outside your control? Stepping up to adulthood mean you will need to choose rational over wishing upon a star, and it is one of the way to better manage your expectation when things not always go your way.