I have been writing about many topics on happiness.
Mathematic of happiness, on being grateful, aftermath of happiness and so on.
Apparently, the key to happiness is even simpler than the things that I have wrote before, well... simple to say but never easy to be done in reality.
The key to happiness is really to decide to feel happy.
I know, I know. It is cliché.. and super tough. But it really is.
Everyday in life, channel your energy and focus to feel happy.
Wake up in the morning and breathe, don't let the thoughts of future and past disturb your inner peace. Breathe and decide to simply feel happy, fill yourself with simple joy - start counting the beautiful things that you have in your life.
In my case, it is the sunshine, the friends and family that I have, the supports I got from my colleagues, the shelter that I owned.
Life is not perfect, and it will never be, so perhaps it is just how we perceive and see things.
I have a frantic and busy life, and sometimes it drives me craaazyyyy
but at times, I just decided and think "ok, life is crazy and then what..? I just do things that I can do, I try my best, I am human and need some sleep time, eat time, and break time. I did my best, if it is not enough for other people then be it. " and I decide to feel happy and content .
That's it, that is the thought process to be happy.
not easy, but with practice and more practice, slowly but sure.. it starts to work.
Sunday 17 April 2016
Saturday 2 January 2016
New Year Resolution for 2016
My big theme for 2016 is "Live life to the fullest" with some sub theme around embracing the childhood in me and be more mindful about my daily life, what happened and what I've been going through.
It takes me years to understand that I have a different life plot compare with other people and even more years for me to accept it.
I am coming too fast on several areas and coming too slow for some other areas.
I can share that I had a tough childhood time, in which I develop my survival instinct and urge to take responsibility faster than any other kid. Looking back, I am not quite sure that I had a chance of being silly as a kid, or being imaginative as much as I want, life push me to assume responsibility faster than others.
Growing up, I realize at one point that I enjoy things that supposedly people enjoy around senior high school/college times. As an adult now, I also see that most of my friends already settling down while I am still on my way to craft a better future, perhaps this one will come late for me as well and I will patiently waiting for that.
So cheers to a more playful and mindful 2016!
P.S. I am still figuring out my plans ahead (as my 2015 reflections made me sure that I need a sense of purpose).
It takes me years to understand that I have a different life plot compare with other people and even more years for me to accept it.
I am coming too fast on several areas and coming too slow for some other areas.
I can share that I had a tough childhood time, in which I develop my survival instinct and urge to take responsibility faster than any other kid. Looking back, I am not quite sure that I had a chance of being silly as a kid, or being imaginative as much as I want, life push me to assume responsibility faster than others.
Growing up, I realize at one point that I enjoy things that supposedly people enjoy around senior high school/college times. As an adult now, I also see that most of my friends already settling down while I am still on my way to craft a better future, perhaps this one will come late for me as well and I will patiently waiting for that.
So cheers to a more playful and mindful 2016!
P.S. I am still figuring out my plans ahead (as my 2015 reflections made me sure that I need a sense of purpose).
Friday 1 January 2016
Reflection 2015
2015 feels like a blink of an eye, up to level that I did not feel that I have been in that year.
(please refer to the word 'feel', I know it is not logic to think that I have not been going thru that year while until now I am still alive, hence I use feel rather than logic to explain here).
This will be my first time reviewing a year from two perspectives: Logic and Feeling
Let's discuss from logic point of view.
In 2015, I travel to at least 9 new places ( I travel as far as Seattle, Beijing, to northest island in Indonesia, to highest village in Indonesia). I presented an Ignite session in front of my whole HR community in APAC and rated as a good performer on my annual performance review. I met at least two single guy that made me think "oh there is a hope!". I travel with my family for the first time abroad, I did have one cooking class, joining one yoga retreat, visiting Bali twice and closing a year in the highest village in Indonesia at 2000 metres above sea level.
Logically, who does not want to have that life?
Logically, everyone envy my free spirited life. Single, independent, free, hopeful, bright future.
From feeling point of view...
I feel that I don't do anything in that year, I forget what was it about, I feel that it is empty, meaningless - and worse, I feel broken inside.
Sad thing is - all of the experience above feel nothing, while it is actually worth and priceless.
Me myself asking myself a big WHY??
There are so many factors I can try to remember, yet I believe the main factor is .. I do not plan 2015, I do not set goals for 2015, hence I do not feel any milestone happened or achieved.
I get used to school lifestyle in which everything is planned, everything have timeline.
2009 - I graduated and start to work
2010- I graduated from Management Trainee Program and moved to Factory and learn something very worth in life.
2011- I went to Singapore for 7 months and learn a lot of things in HR area and produced a very good study about Organisation Design and Effectiveness
2012 - I am waiting for my promotion -- in which I remember I almost quit on that year..
2013 - I am promoted and handling Corp function and BB
2014 - I moved to Microsoft and went to USA
2015 - ...
I am marking year by year with goals and milestone. and I do not have anything I specifically pursue in 2015. From my perspective, same thing happened in 2012 - yet I got a good news on end of year so I close it nice, but not 2015. Hence, I think I need to create and plan something for 2016. I am not built to live as time goes by.
It does not mean I can't sit and relax, it is just that I need more sense of purpose.
(please refer to the word 'feel', I know it is not logic to think that I have not been going thru that year while until now I am still alive, hence I use feel rather than logic to explain here).
This will be my first time reviewing a year from two perspectives: Logic and Feeling
Let's discuss from logic point of view.
In 2015, I travel to at least 9 new places ( I travel as far as Seattle, Beijing, to northest island in Indonesia, to highest village in Indonesia). I presented an Ignite session in front of my whole HR community in APAC and rated as a good performer on my annual performance review. I met at least two single guy that made me think "oh there is a hope!". I travel with my family for the first time abroad, I did have one cooking class, joining one yoga retreat, visiting Bali twice and closing a year in the highest village in Indonesia at 2000 metres above sea level.
Logically, who does not want to have that life?
Logically, everyone envy my free spirited life. Single, independent, free, hopeful, bright future.
From feeling point of view...
I feel that I don't do anything in that year, I forget what was it about, I feel that it is empty, meaningless - and worse, I feel broken inside.
Sad thing is - all of the experience above feel nothing, while it is actually worth and priceless.
Me myself asking myself a big WHY??
There are so many factors I can try to remember, yet I believe the main factor is .. I do not plan 2015, I do not set goals for 2015, hence I do not feel any milestone happened or achieved.
I get used to school lifestyle in which everything is planned, everything have timeline.
2009 - I graduated and start to work
2010- I graduated from Management Trainee Program and moved to Factory and learn something very worth in life.
2011- I went to Singapore for 7 months and learn a lot of things in HR area and produced a very good study about Organisation Design and Effectiveness
2012 - I am waiting for my promotion -- in which I remember I almost quit on that year..
2013 - I am promoted and handling Corp function and BB
2014 - I moved to Microsoft and went to USA
2015 - ...
I am marking year by year with goals and milestone. and I do not have anything I specifically pursue in 2015. From my perspective, same thing happened in 2012 - yet I got a good news on end of year so I close it nice, but not 2015. Hence, I think I need to create and plan something for 2016. I am not built to live as time goes by.
It does not mean I can't sit and relax, it is just that I need more sense of purpose.
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