Change preferences

People change.
they change their minds
they change their preferences
they change their friends
even they change their type of soulmate.

There is nothing right or wrong on this.
Each people just learn in different way.

Me myself choose different style of friendship.
Previously, I prefer to have small number of friends-
previously, I want to have a deep relationship with small number of people who I call friend.
previously, I want to hear anything about them.

Yet, life change.
and so do I.
now, I prefer to have many friends
and I don't need to know their past, their deep story or having deep connection.
Laughing together is enough to be called a friend.

Its probably sound superficial, yet I find it better.
I can learn a lot of new perspectives, without expectation burdening.

So, anyone want to be my friend now? :)

Self respect as key of happiness

Happiness shouldn't be complicated.

one of the key thing to happiness is your ability to take care of yourself well.

self respect is the key.

Some simple tips:

1. Eat what you wanna eat, but eat consciously.

    I drink coke, eat ice cream and chocolate, but in a sufficient amount.

2. Exercise, a healthy soul start with healthy body. I do exercise at least twice a week.

3. Sleep well, put all of your worry in a paper or keep it at locked box. 

    Just worry when its time to worry, dont let your negative mind ruin your sleep.

4. Do what you like to do to charge yourself.

    I loooove spa, but when I can't go to spa, I do it at home!

5. Grateful. If you have shelter, enough food, ability to buy proper fashion; you already lucky.    

     Don't whine! Life is tough and just keep moving.

Happiness should be simple. Don't over complicate it.

Friendship definition

I've been trying to define friendship lately...I keep asking myself..
What is the definition of best friends?
What is definition of bad friends?

I have browsed the dictionary.. and it doesn't help much this time.
so I will try to define it myself.

For me, friendship is like a relationship.. you need to find a person who can grow up at the same phase with you.
Friendship should be a benefit for both parties, where you resonate things without saying  too many words, where one doesn't need to keep telling other parties to do this and that continuously, where you can create comforts for being with each other.
Friendship should involve trust.. when lies involved, trust broken, then the friendship is gone.

There are times, when I acuse myself as a not so good friend when my friend probably need me badly- I can't stand when my friends keep whining without doing the acts and I can't stand the immature talks involving too much feeling. 
I have been trying to keep reminding myself that friendship should be unconditional, that I should be there in good and bad times. But, then I think, my style of friendship is a different one, I am tough and logic and will not involve pity in a friendship. 

OH, I know this isn't a perfect definition of friendship.
The good thing about my imperfect writings.. everyone can define their own definition of friendship :) 
here is some inspiration for you and me to define friendship : 

Choose your friend wisely fellas!

Writing from the office, again..

I am writing from the office again.

Why?

Because my mind and heart and soul speak too much when I was in office!

They made comments to my every single doing in workplace.

When I was in a meeting, my mind constantly say this and that about the person in front of me

When I was staring at my inbox, my mind constantly cursing how silly people are for asking such an unimportant questions to me

When I was replying emails or crafting a presentation or in a teleconference room, my mind wander.. WHY DO I DO THIS?

Its just very funny, after 4 years and 3 months working, I feel I come back to point zero where I have no clue why am I here or what is my purpose of life.

Its just too funny that I start to think that I probably should try sales, try finance, try anything that less require me to do facilitation job.

When attended one of trainee presentation today, I just somehow knew that I have lost the spirit.

All my mind says these days: "I am tired like Hell, I am tired like Hell"

Lets practice perseverance though, or.. knowing when to quit.
I am reading this book:

Some of the key take outs:

1. Persistence in pursuit of a goal is valuable. So is knowing when to quit.
2. Your brain is hard-wired for persistence 
3. Fear of failure can blind you to the need to quit chasing a goal that isn’t working.
4. Not all quitting is healthy. Quitting with threats or staging a “disappearing act” feeds underlying problems.
5. Manage your possible regrets. Don’t let self-reflection turn into unhealthy rumination.